Written by: Beh-aga, translation by: Profossgbg
It might seem as excessive list, but, BDSM has nothing to do with what is stated below. Sure, it might be a part of a BDSM as an element of roleplay. But never think you can use BDSM as an excuse were there are no consent. For it to be what we see as BDSM the words from the afterword combined with consent must be present at all times.
Any kind of abuse, any act without consent, big or small
Tyranny or bullying
Battery
Disrespect
A way to get sex whenever one want to
To have a submissive or dominant attitude towards other
A way to get out of responsibility for a relationship (on the contrary!)
Always to be strong, hard, rough and insensitive
Obedience at any cost
Denying on self ones needs and prone yourself to something that not is god for you or you desire
Gravity to a fault and never any humour
To dominate or to be dominated when one is not capable of taking care of one self
A replacement for self-destructiveness
To view someone as subhuman
To view oneself as superior
A means to deny or to assert on self
Egoism
A means to act out aggressions
Manipulation
Total obedience
Intolerance toward others choices in life
Stereotype gender roles
Politics
Religion
To deny other people’s wrights
A way to get former days to today
A means to hide other forms of pain to one self
Afterword
By contrast is BDSM a form of love, care, responsibility towards one another and communication. I can be a role-play or a session that is hard, painful, strict, emotional and loving in a total mix of things from time to time depending on what you and your partner(s) are up for. It can be the cause of tears, laughter and it can seem very strange and nasty for someone who does not know what it is about. Saying that with knowing that everything that happens has consent from all.