The list of kinks – A possible treasure map for your enjoyment
Keep in mind that the list of kinks contains very much, if you appreciate many things or maybe just something is individual. But this is a tool to more easily see what you like, see the common denominator and the creations of frames. /Profossgbg
sub’s safe list v. 1.6 – 2004.12.15 [Feel free to use.]
| Please note that a safe list is only meant to be used as a back-up and as a complement to a dialogue, or as a basis for conversation. It is not in any way suitable to use as the only communication! |
Fill in the list according to the following instructions:
First table:
Experience (E):
Mark with” in the column of experience next to the things you have experience of. If you have no experience at all of the activity so leave the box blank. Do you feel that you have some but very limited experience of something, or if you are unsure if your definition of the phenomenon/activity is consistent with the definition, so you can select this with the”(X)”. If you wish, you can then specify the level of experience or question in the column of questions.
Interest (I):
Indicate with 0-5 or No depending on how you feel about the activity.
? – mark with the question mark means that you do not understand what is meant by the phenomenon/activity, or that you would like to discuss with the dominant about what it actually means before you state your interest in the question.
No – means that you never, ever, under any circumstances and is willing to test/become a victim of the phenomenon/activity. (A definite and absolute limit.)
. 0 – means that you do not have any private interest of/the phenomenon/activity, and kind of hate it. However, you can implement it if the Dominant really want to, despite the fact that during “normal” circumstances, would have protested. Loudly.
1 – Means that you do not want to or do not like to implement the phenomenon/activity, but if it was required of you then you would not protest. (At least, not so much.)
2 – means that you without problems can be part of the activity, but that you personally really do not get out as much, if even anything, of it.
3 –– means that you think that the phenomenon/activity is quiet okay to engage in, it may well almost be a little nice, at least if it’s not too frequent. Maybe something you fantasize about, but you are a little unsure about –but curious – in IRL.
4 – Means that you like this phenomenon/activity, or believe you do it and have a large dose of positive curiosity in the baggage.
5 – Means that this is something you’ve tried (in – of course – a sober state) in reality, and that it is an event/activity you really like and appreciate.
Special marking (S):
! – mark with an exclamation mark in the column after the number if it is an event/activity that you are curious to try, but perhaps are afraid of, or that you have some other reason to want to talk it through with your partner before implementation.
* – Mark in the same way with an asterisk (*) in the S-column at the things/activities that is ok to implement with a stable/current partner, but not together with temporary BDSM partners.
Comments: Preferences, specifications, restrictions and other comments, requests, and disclosures.
Second table:
Damage/ personal concerns /physical problems: A small body based table, mostly meant to complement the actual okay/not-okay-list. If there are places on your body if you do not want to be affected by any specific reasons, or if you have problems with the joints/back/neck or something special such as old injuries, which can go up by a certain treatment, then you can fill in it there. So just as a little back up to the verbal communication. It is always better that the information will one time too many than the opposite. If you have no physical problems or personal concerns, just leave it blank in the “table of “problem description”.
Third table:
Moreover: Anything ells you want to convey? The word is free.
Finally:
Fill in the two or four safe words below (definitive limit signals should always be set before anything begins), print the document, and fill finally, in the date.
| Decrease word. The activity should be temporarily stopped or made less hard, so that the final safe word not need to be used. | Definite word for stop. All activity shall cease immediately. |
| yellow | Red |
| E | I | S | COMMENTS | |
| Age play | ||||
| Butt plug – public, under clothing | ||||
| Butt plug – small | ||||
| Butt plug – large | ||||
| Punishments – bdsm-clubs and the like | ||||
| Punishments – in public | ||||
| Punishments – in private | ||||
| To be bitten | ||||
| To be feed | ||||
| Be waited on sexually | ||||
| Diapers | ||||
| Shackles – soft; leather, textile, etc | ||||
| Shackles – hard; metal, wood, | ||||
| Bondage – hard (more advanced or physically demanding) | ||||
| Shackles – Light | ||||
| Shackles – in public, under clothes | ||||
| Breath control – by mouth/nose with hands | ||||
| Breath control – with the help of water, plastic, gas masks | ||||
| Bondage of tits | ||||
| Tits/nipple torture | ||||
| Cages | ||||
| Caning (hitting with canes/bamboo) | ||||
| Cutting (play with knives, razor blades, etc) | ||||
| Cybersex | ||||
| Deep throating | ||||
| Dildos/vibrators, etc. | ||||
| Games of disciplin | ||||
| Animalplay/roles | ||||
| Domination – physical | ||||
| Domination – mental | ||||
| Electro stimulation | ||||
| Erotic dance (in front of audience) | ||||
| Exhibitionism – familiar, ”safe” circuits | ||||
| Exhibitionism – strangers | ||||
| Fisting – anal | ||||
| Fisting – vaginal | ||||
| Photography | ||||
| paddles | ||||
| Interrogation | ||||
| Humiliation – bdsm-clubs and simular | ||||
| Humiliation – public | ||||
| Humiliation – private | ||||
| Gags | ||||
| Genital stimulation by hand – to get | ||||
| Genital stimulation by hand – to give | ||||
| Gang-rape – fantasy/role-playing game | ||||
| Rubber/latex clothing | ||||
| Handcuffs | ||||
| Harness-trim | ||||
| Housework | ||||
| Hoods | ||||
| Hair brush/spatula, etc (spanking) | ||||
| Get hair pulled | ||||
| Hearing prevention (hearing protection e. etc.) | ||||
| Intimate (genital) body bondage | ||||
| Ice cubes | ||||
| Chains | ||||
| Kidnapping | ||||
| Tickling | ||||
| Clothespins | ||||
| Orders regarding what to wear | ||||
| Clamps ex. for nipples/genitals/sole | ||||
| Clamps with weights | ||||
| Kneeling | ||||
| Leash | ||||
| Corsets – easy lacing | ||||
| Corsets – heavy duty lacing | ||||
| Suspension | ||||
| ”Creeping” – to be forced to beg | ||||
| Chastity belt | ||||
| Chastity – forced | ||||
| Enemas – for cleansing | ||||
| Enema – punishment | ||||
| Leg spreaders/spreader bars | ||||
| Massage – receive | ||||
| Massage – give | ||||
| Masturbation – forced | ||||
| Beater | ||||
| Medical scenes | ||||
| More than one dominant. | ||||
| Mummification | ||||
| Human puppy dog | ||||
| Nudity – forced | ||||
| Needles (sterile – of course.) | ||||
| Oral anal games | ||||
| Oral sex – to give to a woman | ||||
| Oral sex – to give to a man | ||||
| Oral sex – receiving | ||||
| Obedience of orders | ||||
| Prevention of orgasm | ||||
| Control of orgasm | ||||
| Orgasm – forced | ||||
| Exchange of partners | ||||
| Penetration -,anal with anything other than the sexual organs (fingers, objects, etc) | ||||
| Penetration – anal, with the genitals | ||||
| Penetration – double | ||||
| Penetration – vaginal, other than the sexual organs (fingers, objects, etc) | ||||
| Penetration – vaginal, genital | ||||
| Modifications of personality | ||||
| Piercing – permanent | ||||
| Piercing – temporary | ||||
| Roleplay maid | ||||
| Flogging – tits | ||||
| Flogging – genital | ||||
| Flogging – hard | ||||
| Flogging – easy | ||||
| Pony play/pony slave | ||||
| Shaving (body hair) | ||||
| Restrictions regarding eye contact | ||||
| Teasing | ||||
| riding crop | ||||
| Rituals | ||||
| Role playing(scenarios) – public | ||||
| Role playing(scenarios) – private | ||||
| Fear (become afraid) | ||||
| The pillory | ||||
| leather clothes | ||||
| Belting with belts/straps | ||||
| Spanked – lying in the knee | ||||
| Pain – light | ||||
| Pain – palpable | ||||
| Pain – sharp | ||||
| Spanking | ||||
| Semen (taking in mouth, swallow, etc) | ||||
| Candle wax | ||||
| Strap-on-dildos | ||||
| Choking | ||||
| Suspension | ||||
| Tattoo | ||||
| Tape bondage | ||||
| Tape gags | ||||
| Phone sex | ||||
| Discipline for incorrect behavior – public |
||||
| Discipline for incorrect behavior – private |
||||
| Discipline for incorrect behavior – bdsm-clubs and the like. |
||||
| Trampling (to be walked on) | ||||
| Exercise – forced/required | ||||
| Forced sex with someone of the opposite sex | ||||
| Forced sex with someone of the same sex | ||||
| Straight jacket/bondage clothing | ||||
| Silenced with a gag | ||||
| Examination – anal | ||||
| Examination – whole body | ||||
| Examination – vaginal | ||||
| Uniforms | ||||
| Service/attandance | ||||
| Training/forming | ||||
| Loaned to another dominant. | ||||
| Waxing (body hair) | ||||
| Verbal humiliation | ||||
| Video filming | ||||
| Rape – fantasy/role-playing game | ||||
| Wetsex | ||||
| Blindfold | ||||
| Slaps | ||||
| Abandonment |
| Part of the BODY | DESCRIPTION of PROBLEM AND COMMENTS |
| Face | |
| Shoulders/arms/hands | |
| Neck/neck/shoulders | |
| Skin | |
| Hips/legs/feet | |
| Internal organs/diseases | |
| Torso front | . |
| Torso spine | |
| Sex organ |
| Other (what ever you whant to have said) |